In this post, we will identify and describe briefly the popular nonverbal signs and indirect verbal moves by women to show that they want a romantic relationship with some men. Women are actually active in courtship, albeit, in an indirect or implicit way, their invitations are primarily done through nonverbal signs or body language.
We have already established in my previous post entitled “4 Top signs about Women and Courtship” that women are not really passive in the process of courtship. In fact, they generally initiate courtship by making the first nonverbal moves to woo their men. Women do implicitly court men through the movements of their eyes, showing off their sexy physical features, providing symbolic actions that suggest they have a crush on certain guys or indirect verbal moves to show their targets that they want a romantic intimacy with them.
So it is really more of a myth to say that women are completely passive in courtship and that they only respond to men’s initiatives. The common pattern seems to be the other way around. It is the women who first “court” men through nonverbal signs or indirect verbal moves to woo them. Men, in turn, just respond to these initiatives by verbal articulation or proposals to start a romantic union.
Here are the biggest signs that women are in love with men:
1. Seductive Eye Contact
(She looks at him once in a while, looks into his eyes, looks at him often, looks long, etc.)
If the woman continuously looking at a man and not the room or surrounding, it is a sign that she is interested in him. She can also show her special affection for him by occasionally glancing at him, especially if he is not looking at her. If the man is observant and sensitive enough of this nonverbal sign of attraction, then he can sense that somebody is seducing him through her eye contact.
The eyes are said to be the windows of the soul. The movements of the eyes are loaded with meanings and clues to the internal disposition of the person. One can sense if a person is sad, happy, afraid, or falling in love through his/her eyes. Most surveys on which body part is the sexiest for men and women revealed that the eyes are considered the sexiest of all body parts of both genders. The movements of the eyes of the person can convey romantic and sexual meanings for the other.
2. Seductive Eye contact with other Nonverbal Facial Expressions
(She looks at the man in a seductive way, ogle, wink, smile at, smile in a friendly way, smile sweetly at, etc. )
Showing seductive eyes implies that the woman is interested in a particular man. The eyes are the most expressive body part that provides a crucial clue whether the woman has a special interest to the opposite sex. A woman who likes a particular person usually look, ogle, or wink with a sweet smile to him. A seductive glance with a smile or other facial expression is different with an ordinary disinterested look. An observant and sensitive guy can tell whether a woman has a special concern for him or not by just observing a woman’s seductive look and facial expression.
3. Moving Closer to the Guy:
(She stands or sits close to him, walk by, stay near him, etc.)
Physical distance has a social meaning in a relationship. The distance between two people implies the degree of intimacy. If a woman is too far from the man, it implies an absence or lack of connection or intimacy between. But if a woman is moving closer to a man by approaching, standing or sitting near him, it implies that she wants to know more about him and to have some intimacy with him.
4. Approaching and Starting to Talk to the Man:
(She walks to him and begin a speech, go next to him in a bar or coffee shop and say something, etc. )
Some aggressive women do not only go near to the persons that attract them but also try to make initial and indirect verbal moves to connect with them. They sometimes walk to them or go next to them in a bar or coffee shop and start conversing with them informally. Their aura is usually friendly and their interest is shown in the sweet smiles on their faces.
5. Talking to Guy about Issues of General Interest:
(She makes a joke, begins a conversation, saying something witty to him, asking a question, making a remark, etc.)
To get the attention of the guy, the interested woman would sometimes approach him and start a light conversation, say something witty, ask a question, or make a remark, especially if the initial encounter was already established. This is an indirect way of inviting her man to a romantic relationship. It all depends on the guy whether he too is interested and would accept these initial moves of wooing.
6. Talking Directly to the Guy:
(She makes a compliment, says she likes him, offers him a drink, says directly what she thinks of him, invites him to dance, etc. )
If some women want to ensure that their seductions and nonverbal signs of interest are noticed, they usually approach their targets directly and say something nice about them, offer some drinks, or invite them to a dance.
7. Talking Indirectly to the Guy, Apparently in a Functional Way:
(She asks what time it is, ask for a light, ask for a coin for the telephone, ask for a cigarette, etc.)
To get the attention of the men they are interested in, some women would approach their targets and ask them in a functional way for some things to be noticed. They would, for instance, ask the women about the time of the day, ask for a light or help in some mobile phone problems, a cigarette, etc.
8. Approaching the Guy through a Third Person:
(She approaches him through a friend, she walks by and talks to another person, etc.)
Women would sometimes use a “go-between” or a common friend just to get in touch with their targets. A woman, for instance, would ask a friend in a gathering about the next guy on the table, etc. She can make a whisper to her friend and look seductively on the guy.
9. Paying Special Attention to Him:
(She listens to him with amusement, she’s attentive, asks interesting questions, be nice, pay attention to him, etc. )
A woman signals her interest to a guy by being extra interested with what he is doing. She asks questions in a nice on his latest project, hobby, sport, etc. She also follows him in the social media or anything he is active online.
10. Showing Some of Her Physical Features:
(She shows her sexy body or any body part to her crush)
Showing some sexy body parts is another strategy of women who fall in love with their men. This is a more direct nonverbal sign to invite men to approach and make a connection with the seducing females. This can be an effective strategy since men, in general, can easily be attracted physically to women.
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De Weerth, C. & Kalma, A. (1995). Gender Differences in Awareness of Courtship Initiation Tactics. Sex Roles. Vol. 32, Nos. 11/12, 1995.
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