The Latent Message of Bruno Mars’ “Versace on the Floor”

bruno-mars-702287_640
“Versace on the Floor” 
By: Bruno Mars
shooting stars love GIF
Let’s take our time tonight, girl
Above us all the stars are watchin’
There’s no place I’d rather be in this world
Your eyes are where I’m lost in
Underneath the chandelier
We’re dancin’ all alone
There’s no reason to hide
What we’re feelin’ inside
Right now
chandelier GIF
So baby let’s just turn down the lights
And close the door
Ooh I love that dress
But you won’t need it anymore
No you won’t need it no more
Let’s just kiss ’til we’re naked, baby
ryan gosling kiss GIF
Versace on the floor
Ooh take it off for me, for me, for me, for me now, girl
Versace on the floor
Ooh take it off for me, for me, for me, for me now, girl, mmm
I unzip the back to watch it fall
While I kiss your neck and shoulders
No don’t be afraid to show it all
I’ll be right here ready to hold you
Girl you[1]
Types of Love
Love can mean different things to different people. There are different types of love. It can be  based on eros or erotic and sexual love, filia, or fraternal love, and agape or self-giving and selfless love.
couple-goal-3240647_640
But the mega hit song “Versace on the Floor” of Bruno Mars  is suggesting something that cannot simply be categorized into any of the above classical classification of love. I think his song is suggesting of a different type of love that is more than just erotic love. This is the type of love that is emerging in our current technological and globalized age. It’s what the sociologist Anthony Giddens calls as “confluent love.”
in-love-3413497_640
The lyrics of the song seems to suggest this kind of love that emphasizes the contingent bliss of being together in the dancing floor underneath the chandelier–that the lovers just enjoy the moment, no worries about rules, morality or commitment to enter into marriage: “Let’s just kiss ’til we’re naked, baby”
What is Confluent Love?

Confluent love is the most popular type of  union in  today’s globalizing world that is characterized by flows, flexibility, and “liquidity” of information and migration of people around the globe. The current postmodern society prefers anything contingent or passing, or relationships without lasting or long-term commitment. Confluent love flourishes in this type of environment. It is, therefore, unsurprising to see divorce, annulment, and legal separation, cohabitation, and marital infidelity increasing in today’s global society.

Unlike romantic love, confluent love has no commitment to last until death or to enter into marriage. It is passing and it is good while it lasts for partners.

couple-hug-kissing-18397

Confluent love is a type of romantic relationship which is attuned to the present postmodern times. In his book, “The Transformation of Intimacy: Sexuality, Love and Eroticism in Modern Societies,” the British sociologist Anthony Giddens (1992) describes confluent love as a type of love which is based on pure relationship. And  pure relationship is a “social relation…entered into for its own sake; and which is continued only in so far as it is thought by both parties to deliver enough satisfaction for each individual to stay within it” (Cornville & Rogers, 1998, p. 97).

‘Unlike romantic love, confluent love is not necessarily exclusive. What holds the pure relationship together is the acceptance on the part of each partner, ‘until further notice’, that each gains sufficient benefit from the relation to make its continuance worthwhile (Giddens, 2011). Romantic love is a type of relationship which is often viewed as ‘forever after’ monogamous love. This type of love prepares people for the lifelong commitment of marital love after courtship and engagement.

erotic-lingerie-nude-597200

Confluent love is different from romantic or marital love. In consensual love, the partners agree to have sexual relations with others whom they have no intention of marrying or, if they marry, do not necessarily see the marriage as having permanence (Kendal, 2014). The essence of confluent love is its contingency. It is not a “till-death-do-us-part” kind of relationship. It lasts as long as the lovers find the relationship mutually fulfilling. Thus, a one-night stand, a regular orgy of couples, or a temporary live-in arrangement or cohabitation with no intention of marrying, are some expressions of confluent love.

gay-lingerie-sex-413792
Confluent love is now becoming popular to millennials and post-millennials. On the one hand, the millennials  are those who belong to Generation Y or the generational demographic cohort following Generation X. There are no exact dates for when this cohort starts or ends. But many demographers typically use the early 1980s as starting birth years and the mid-1990s to early 2000s as ending birth years for people to be called millennials.
The post-millennials, on the other hand, are those who are born from the early 2000s up to the present.
ethics-947567_640
The emergence of confluent today is a great challenge to different churches and religions that believe that love and sex are sacred and must be guarded by the rules of ethics and morality.
Photo credit: Pixabay.com, Pexels.com
Thank you for reading this post. Sign up with our newsletter or follow this blog via email.
Advertisements

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s