Chasing the Ultimate Meaning of Life & Happiness

       Do we really know where we are going to in life? The following lines of the song of Diana Ross entitled “Do You Know Where You’re Going To” are loaded with philosophical and sociological meanings that can challenge us to find the ultimate meaning and happiness of our life:      “Do you know where you’re …

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4 Determinants in Choosing a Date

What do people look for when they want to choose a partner in a date? The factors that determine people what to look for from people they want to go out in a date are usually cultural. Each culture has its own set of expectation and criteria of what constitutes an ideal date and date …

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Best Strategies in Courting Women

Introduction Two things to remember before courting a woman. First, dating is different from courtship, although they are related. Dating can lead to courtship. Second, it is important to court one woman at a time. Finally, courtship is not a game but a preparation for marriage for the Catholic Church. 1. Dating is different from …

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Your Top Guide on Falling in Love

Choosing the right partner is closely connected with one’s cultural taste and socialization in life. Every individual has his/her own “wish list” of traits they hope to find from their suitors, boyfriends, girlfriends, spouses or lovers. In sociology, every person undergoes a socialization process or social upbringing in order to become a productive human being …

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Can Our Mom Become a Saint? A Tribute to Our Nanay Aday on Mother’s Day

  We have no doubt that our mom was now in heaven right after her death. Our mother is a very religious woman. Although she was regularly busy, waking up at early dawn to start preparing snacks she would sell in school canteens and public market, she still find time to pray her rosary and …

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What is an Unrequited Love?

SOCIOLOGICALLY YOURS, Dr. Vivencio (Ven) Ballano


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The Way I Love You (A Letter To My Loved One)[1]

Dearly beloved,

When i first met you,
I knew you were special.
Something clicked inside me,
that knew this was the beginning
of something surreal.

For as long as I can remember,
I have dreams of fairytales
and love stories;
but they have never come close
to our story.

You have made me see
that life has so much to offer.
You encourage me to aspire
to be my best.

Without you,
I would have been stuck in
a cobweb,
of questions about
my self worth.

Now I can look in the mirror
and tell myself
that I am beautiful,
my future is bright with your presense.

Emotions run wild
My heart longs for you
Without you, my existance
is worth nothing.

My heart aches when you are gone.
When we are seperated
my soul…

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Does Age Matter in a Romantic Relationship?

SOCIOLOGICALLY YOURS, Dr. Vivencio (Ven) Ballano


“Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter” (Mark Twain).


The saying that “Age doesn’t matter” is a popular expression among people for those who fall in love with a wide age gap. They say that love is blind. So, it’s okay to be blinded by the age of one’s crush or lover. Experts on romantic love acknowledge that falling in love is indeed a strong positive energy that makes a person less aware of the consequences of having a big age gap in romantic relationship. One can be so enamored with the other person’s beauty, popularity, personality, social status, or wealth, that he or she forgets that the other person is either too old or too young for him/her! I already encountered some people who fell in love or even got married despite a wide age difference. When I was a…

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What is Love Obsession Stalking?

SOCIOLOGICALLY YOURS, Dr. Vivencio (Ven) Ballano


Love stalking is one of the most unhealthy types of romantic love. It is often associated with mental or psychological disorder. In one of the most comprehensive studies of stalking, Rosemary Purcell, Michele Pathé and Paul Mullen from the Victorian Institute of Forensic Mental Health and Monash University, in Australia, surveyed 3700 adult men and women and found almost one in four had been stalked.


In addition, a study published in the ‘Australian and New Zealand Journal of Psychiatry’ also found out that women were twice as likely as men to report having been stalked at some time in their lives. As younger people were significantly more likely than older to report having been stalked, the authors wondered if this was evidence that stalking was significantly increasing in modern times [1]”.


Love obsession stalking is done by people who develop a love obsession or fixation on another person with whom…

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Common Signs of Falling in Love

SOCIOLOGICALLY YOURS, Dr. Vivencio (Ven) Ballano


A person who falls in love usually thinks that his or her beloved is unique and super special. This belief is accompanied by the inability to feel romantic passion for others. Since each person has a unique social upbringing and cultural orientation, manifestations and signs of falling in love may differ from one individual to another. But those who live in urban societies, the feeling of falling in love is generally associated with the following behavioral manifestations:

    1. Tend to see their beloved as “perfect”


People who fall in love tend to be blinded on the negative traits of their beloved. They tend to focus on the positive qualities of their beloved, while overlooking his or her negative traits. They also focus on trivial events and objects that remind them of their loved one, daydreaming about these precious little moments and mementos.

   2. Experience emotional and physiological…

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What is Confluent Love?

SOCIOLOGICALLY YOURS, Dr. Vivencio (Ven) Ballano


Confluent love is the most popular type of  union in  today’s globalizing world that is characterized by flows, flexibility, and “liquidity” of information and migration of people around the globe. The current postmodern society prefers anything contingent or passing, or relationships without lasting or long-term commitment. Confluent love flourishes in this type of environment. It is, therefore, unsurprising to see divorce, annulment, and legal separation, cohabitation, and marital infidelity increasing in today’s global society.

Unlike romantic love, confluent love has no commitment to last until death or to enter into marriage. It is passing and it is good while it lasts for partners.

this story of Gabrielle illustrates the contingency of confluent love:


“It was three years ago when I became friends with a guy I met through a mutual friend. It was hard not to like him. He was sweet, charming and thoughtful. He became the friend I would…

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